It’s not wrong to love too much, but don’t ‘love the wrong person’.
Have you ever felt that you love someone too much? Or have you ever been told that “you are doing too much”? Although love is a beautiful thing, sometimes it can hurt us. So how can we love in a way that is not harmful to ourselves? If anyone remembers the famous writer Elizabeth Gilbert. She once wrote in her book Eat, Pray, Love that “To lose balance sometimes for love is part of living a balanced life.” This statement reflects that losing balance sometimes for love is part of living a balanced life. But the problem is, how do we know when we are “in love with the wrong person?”
There may be times in our lives when we or our friends and acquaintances fall head over heels in love with someone. They devote themselves to this relationship with all their hearts. To the หรือถ้าคุณสนใจแทงบอลออนไลน์ UFABET คือเว็บที่มีอัตราต่อรองดีที่สุดในประเทศไทย สมัครเลยตอนนี้ที่ UFABET แทงบอล point of being willing to do anything in exchange for seeing the person they love ‘satisfied’. Even though the other person never reciprocates their feelings. Too much love makes people blind. This sentence may be the closest to the truth. Love so much that you forget to take care of yourself, and in the end. You are heartbroken when you realize that everything you have devoted is no different from pouring water on sand. Or if you are unlucky enough to meet someone who is with you just to take advantage. The pain is even greater.
This case is a clear example of ‘loving the wrong person’ and ‘loving too much’ to the point of causing yourself trouble. There’s nothing wrong with devoting your love to someone. But we must not forget to take care of ourselves and our dreams.
Dr. John Gottman, a renowned relationship psychologist, said, “The most important thing in a relationship is not communication, but connection.” Emotional and mental connection is the most important thing in a relationship, not just communication. When we feel like we are too much in love with someone, ask ourselves. Do we still feel a connection with that person? Or are we just trying our best to love them? There is nothing wrong with loving too much. But loving the wrong person can cause us to waste time and energy on someone who does not reciprocate our feelings.
How do we know when we are ‘in love with the wrong person?’
Knowing that you’re in love with the wrong person can be difficult, especially when you have deep feelings for that person. But there are some signs that you should look out for and pick up on, such as:
- The relationship is not balanced. Check to see if you are significantly more dedicated to the relationship than your partner. For example, you are always the one calling or texting your partner, while he or she rarely contacts you.
- Your self-worth is diminished. You feel the need to change yourself too much to please your partner. Some people give up activities they enjoy because their partner doesn’t like them. And try to be a different person to please their partner.
- Basic needs not being met. You feel like your basic needs have been neglected all along. You may want stability and want to talk about future plans. But your partner always refuses to talk about your future together.
- You often feel unhappy. Whenever love makes you stressed. Anxious or depressed rather than happy. It may be a warning sign that you may be in love with the wrong person.
- Lack of mutual support If the other person does not support your goals and dreams, you may have to think carefully about whether in the future they will not have the heart to support you from small things to big things. How will you survive in the future?
- One-sided forgiveness: You are always the one who apologizes or forgives, even when you are not at fault. If every time you have a fight, even if your partner is at fault. You are always the one who apologizes first to preserve the relationship.
- This love never gives you a sense of security. You feel insecure in the relationship and are always afraid of being abandoned. The longer you are together, the worse it becomes for your mental health.
So what do we do to have a balanced and harmonious love?
What we want to remind readers who are in this situation is to not forget that loving yourself is just as important as loving others. When we know and understand ourselves more, we will be able to choose the right person and love them more in a balanced way. Whether you are in love or searching for love, believe that you are worthy of receiving good and appropriate love. Don’t fall in love with the wrong person just because you are afraid of being lonely or isolated. Love yourself a lot and the right love will come to you sooner or later.